SIBLING CONFLICT: A Positive Discipline Mini Series

SiblingBuilding Strong Sibling Relationships

A Parenting with Positive Discipline

2-Week Mini-Series

November 29 & December 6

7 to 9pm

Q+A December 4 at noon (via phone)

Early Bird (register by Nov 1) $105/person; $95/2nd caregiver (partner, babysitter, grandparent).

 

After Nov 1: $115/person; $105/2nd caregiver

 

Register Now!

In this workshop, parents will:

  • Discover the 2 main reasons siblings fight
  • Learn 4 things parents commonly do that exacerbate sibling rivalry and what to do instead
  • Gain practical tools that you can use immediately to encourage more peaceful, cooperative sibling relationships
  • Get help managing real-life sibling conflicts

The Sibling Mini Series will be co-facilitated by Marcilie Smith Boyle, MBA, CPCC and Lisa Fuller, MSW, CPCC.

Register here

Got friends who’re interested or could use some new tools in their toolbox? Share & like this page on social media!


 

My husband and I recently took Lisa’s class. We have 2 boys ages 2 and 5. Our goals going into the class were to get on the same page with our parenting and to yell less/be less frustrated. Recently, my mom remarked to me that we seem happier and the kids seem more well behaved!

IMG_6602

 Although we are not perfect, I feel that the class certainly helped us achieve our goals. The following story illustrates how the Positive Discipline model has changed my parenting;
It was a particularly stressful morning at our house. My 5 year old was refusing to get dressed and my 2 year old was refusing to eat breakfast, and of course we were running late. I could feel myself getting close to flipping my lid. Instead of yelling at them, I calmly said, “mommy is feeling frustrated. I don’t want to yell at you guys so I’m going to take a break and calm down.” I went into my bedroom and shut the door. They proceeded to scream for about a minute but then I noticed it got quiet. I took some deep breaths and came out of my room. My 2 year old was eating his breakfast. My 5 year old was quietly laying on his bed. I said to him in a loving voice “hey, I notice you’re not dressed and it’s almost time to leave for school. What do you think we should do?” He quickly replied, “get dressed!” and without any hesitation he put on his clothes and we left on time.

In general, I have become much more aware of what I say and how I say it. In addition, we have tools/techniques to problem solve when conflicts arise. With the concepts and tools of Positive Discipline, our boys are learning to problem solve themselves. This is in contrast to other parenting models which impose rules & discipline externally. They are seeing that their voices are valued in our family and that we ALL practice mutual respect. My husband and I are very grateful for Lisa’s class and would highly recommend it to any parent!
Alexis Harrington
Labor & Deliver Nurse, Lactation Consultant
Oakland, California

I COULDN’T BELIEVE IT! It was exactly like the book and you said it would happen! Even though it worked so well, I admit I felt a bit guilty about seemingly abandoning Louie to her big brother in a moment of distress. But I get that their relationship benefitted from his problem-solving so much more than if I had stepped in.

11816163_10154098787629148_6907306051838967803_oHi Lisa,

I wanted to tell you my success story from this morning. I feel like one of the examples from the book (Siblings without Rivalry), I was so surprised at its effectiveness!

This morning my 5.5yo son Eden left his favorite transformer toys on the floor, and his 1.5yo sister Lulu ran to them and started playing. He saw that, ran over, and pushed her backwards so her head banged the floor (she’s had worse bumps, but it was still rough and it hurt her).

I calmly went over and said, “Do you two need some help? Lulu doesn’t know why you pushed her. Use your words to tell her. I know you two can work this out. I’m going in the kitchen now so you can work it out.”

I walked away as Lulu whimpered a few times, just sitting next to her brother, probably unsure why I hadn’t defended her better.

Only 5 to 10 seconds after I walked away, Eden said, “Hey Louie, do you want another one?! I’ll get you one!” and jumped up to get her the one transformer he wasn’t playing with. He gave it to her, she happily accepted, and she scooted away a few inches to play with it in her own space.

I COULDN’T BELIEVE IT! It was exactly like the book and you said it would happen! Even though it worked so well, I admit I felt a bit guilty about seemingly abandoning Louie to her big brother in a moment of distress. But I get that their relationship benefitted from his problem-solving so much more than if I had stepped in.

Based on the book, if we can be consistent with this kind of conflict resolution, soon both kids will not feel this as abandonment, but as empowerment instead.

–Rachel

Rachel Kinnon
Oakland, California

I was having a very hard time with my 5 yo son after our new babe was born and we moved to a new house…. This class was the answer!

This was an incredibly helpful class. Not only were the concepts behind Positive Discipline consistent with my values and intentions as a parent, but Lisa did an excellent job of conveying them. She did a combination of talking, Q&A and roleplaying to bring the points home and to give us a chance to put them into action. I thought the roleplaying would feel silly and not very helpful… but it was actually really profound. Lisa respected our time and managed the class amazingly well to keep us on track and moving through the material. She is very organized and thoughtful. I was having a very hard time with my 5 yo son after our new babe was born and we moved into a new house… I so wanted to respect his autonomy and be patient with him for what he was going through, but I needed help. This class was the answer! It really enabled me to get through that period and be the parent I wanted to be. The overarching theme of firmness and kindness (respect for the child/respect for yourself and the situation) continues to guide me in my parenting choices and has improved my relationship with my son.

Suzzanne L’Heureux
Raising kids and working in the arts and community building
Oakland, California

Our home is much more peaceful since my husband and I took Lisa’s class, and my children thank her too – well, they would if they knew she was the reason Mommy yells much less now.

kristy

I am so grateful to lisa for her wonderful class. She has given me tools for parenting that have made such a difference.  I really appreciated her kind and thoughtful approach to teaching, and the way she was never judgmental or shocked about anything shared in the safe environment that she created in the class.  She helped all of us participants feel like we were on the same team, and showed us simple yet profound ways to relate to our children.  Our home is much more peaceful since my husband and I took Lisa’s class, and my children thank her too – well, they would if they knew she was the reason Mommy yells much less now.  I highly recommend it!

Kristy Parsons-McClain
Middle School French Teacher
Oakland, California

Visit Us On TwitterVisit Us On FacebookVisit Us On Google PlusVisit Us On LinkedinCheck Our Feed